Once in a while I get perplexed about making a decision. I'm unconvinced of which thing I'd like, given a few things to choose from. I recognize that deep down I probably have a preference, but its just not bubbling to the surface at that moment.
A number of years ago I invented a little exercise to help me figure out what I really want. I do a coin toss.
I say to myself, "OK, if it's heads, then you get A; and if it's tails, then you get B." But since I'm the game maker as well as the game player, I also get to add a rule of my own...
My new rule is that if I get heads and I regret what that chooses for me, then I get to pick the other thing. The regret tells me that I really wanted B all along.
If I get tails and I have no regrets about that, then I get to keep B, because that is what I really wanted all along.
So, I'm fooling myself a little bit, and forcing my feelings to expose themselves. That can be a handy scheme at times. Possibly you have a secret means by which you tease out your own shy wants. If so, I'd love to have you reply and tell us the secret. Its always interesting to hear what you have to share!
Allen Pollock, ( Owner of Gentle Breeze Farm, LLC located in Windham, Maine )
Gentle ponderings & ruminations on life and living