I'm always a little concerned when I find myself with a choice between two things I don't want. Have you been there recently? Sometimes its best to take a breath and step back, at least a short distance, to gain some perspective. Let the ill-wind blow by. See what's left after the squall line passes through.
I have a cat like that. His name is Lee. He's quite the charming fellow. He does not know any other cat who is not his friend. Kind of like the way Will Rogers lived: “A stranger is just a friend I haven't met yet.” Another cat might hiss at Lee, but Lee just looks at him with a kind of expression that says to me "no hablo 'hiss' , wanna be friends!?" He really doesn't speak that language!
Guess what? Lee has alot of friends and no enemies! He walks in a world without looking over his shoulder. Knows who gives the best head rubs and where the best sunny spots are. He's a wise one.
Maybe your example walks on two feet. Some of mine walk on four, too. Its really good to have the chance to see how it all can be different, and that 'push' may not lead to 'shove' as much as a chance to be friends.
Its worth a shot!
Life is often what we make of it. Whether we are in a rough patch or living on easy street we can choose to see light or darkness, good or bad, possibilities or problems. We can choose to live or wait for life to happen to us. Choosing well is the art of this life.
Sometimes the currents of swirling waters rise up and rip at us as we cling to a scrub branch. Sometimes the sun lays its mellowing warmth on our drowsy form. Sometimes we awake at night not knowing, which can be a very bad feeling indeed. Other times the warmth of security provides the kind of mothering we remember from times a'bye.
Day 5 of the year 2012 is like a blank sheet of paper waiting for you and me to begin to trace and fill our lives. We have 360 more sheets to inscribe. I hope and pray that we draw well these lives of ours. Every line and shade are a commitment, not to perfection, but to exploration and the privilege of breath.
Its time to get out our coloring pens and make this the very best year we have lived so far! Please do not wait for tomorrow, friend. It is time to really paint it up one side and down the other.
If you need assistance, you may enlist the encouragement of 2 or 3 Doctors of Living whose ages range from 3 to 5 years old. They are wise in many ways and a benefit to those of us who are returning to our easels after many years.
Allen Pollock, ( Owner of Gentle Breeze Farm, LLC located in Windham, Maine )
Gentle ponderings & ruminations on life and living